Feeling the Pressure?

Ok so frankly I am getting a little frustrated with this whole Bridal College cliche.
The second I decided to go to Bible College the teasings began.." you know your going to BRIDAL college right?" or "I'm gonna find you a man!" and even now people ask me "have you found yourself a husband yet?"
The answer which gets played out inside my head is this: "People seriously I am not at Bible College to find myself a freakin husband! I came to Bible college because I am following my calling to serve God completely and fully for the rest of eternity, not to search out the man I will marry. If it happens it happens but I will not go out and search for it because of all the hype. "
Not everyone gets married to someone they meet in Bible college! In fact MOST do not. Say that 20% of couples who meet at Bible college get engaged each year. This seems like alot in comparsion to other schools but what about the entire other 80%? People make it out to be a place of divine matchmaking. This brings people whos main purpose is to find a spouse and puts pressure on those who come for the main purpose to grow with God.
I am one of those people feeling the pressure. I came to Bible College because I had been called to music ministry but due to all the hype before, I couldnt help but wonder if I would find my husband there.
This is such a distraction. If we spend all our time trying to figure out who our potential husband could be with the false hope that we will in fact find one there, we end up missing out on the valuable time that God wants to spend with us. I believe Bible College is meant by God to be a place of shaping, fixing, and molding us into the leaders we are called to be.
Sometimes I can feel people screaming from inside " Im almost 24, I need to find a husband before I'm too old, NOW!"
"If I'm twenty then I need to find my husband in exactly 3 years.."
"Why cant I find a guy? is it cause I'm not pretty enough or smart enough. Im running out of time"
I wonder why people are feeling this way.. Christians tend to marry young and the pressure to find a husband by a certain age is strong. The reality is that God does not set time restrictions on us, he will bring that person into our lives when the timing is right. So why should we inflict ourselves with the pain that comes if we surpass the age restriction we set and are still not married?
Purity is a hard thing to wait through and many Christians tend to marry early so that they can be intimate with each other. They do not get married early because they are too old in Gods eyes or the world's eyes. Take a look at Abraham and Sarah!
Stats show that the average age of women in Canada who get married is 31! yes 31! and for men it is 34! I was a little surprised when I read this because I had been surrounded by people with the mindset that marriage is to occur in our mid 20's and even I had started to have that mindset myself!
The reality is it's ultimately up to God to bring that person into our lives, we should not worry about when or how he will do it but just trust that he knows best. It is hard to deny the pressure that people in and outside of school put on us to find our perfect match here. If we seek to find this match then we are just asking for the drama and issues which ensue.
When we focus completely on God he will turn us into who he wants us to be. Once we have given him a chance to do that he will open doors, and who knows? our prince might just walk right in ;)

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